Sex is Like a Cup of Tea

How is having sex like having a cup of tea? If they wanted tea last week, does that mean they want it now? What if they wanted it an hour ago? What if they asked for it when they were awake, but now they’re asleep? Watch this (clean) video to find out.

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Here’s How We Can Stop Racism

Jake Estrada

My Facebook friend Jake Estrada posted this on Facebook:

Here’s how we may be able to stop racism, and finally come forward as people. You stop talking about how you are white, black, purple or any other color out there. I stop calling you a white woman or man, you stop calling me a Puerto Rican man. I know you by your name. You know me by mine. We stop referring to other people by their ethnicity, we embrace the fact we are human. Now this may be hard for some to do right away, this may be difficult as we have had centuries of mental training to cling to our racial/ethnic backgrounds. Yet we can start today one day at a time, an embrace our uniqueness as people and fight for a better tomorrow for our children and their children. WE CAN DO THIS.

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U.S. Marines Enter 21st Century

This is still a rifleman.

The U.S. Marines is following orders.  U.S. Navy Secretary Ray Mabus told the Marines to start making titles more female friendly, i.e,, more genderless.  This is especially important as the first female has signed up for the Marines as an Infantry trooper.

Some people will no doubt lambast this as political correctness gone awry. “What difference does a word make?” As I’ve been a journalist, an investigator, and have some very basic training in psychology, I can tell you it makes a world of difference. All of these professions are trained to listen very carefully to the exact wording a person uses.  The precise choice of words is key to understanding a person’s thinking–especially those things that they’re hiding from you or from themselves.

I still struggle after all these years of knowing nurses that were men, even being friends with one and acting with another, to think of one as a nurse and not as a “male nurse.”  Younger people who grew up hearing nurses of both sexes called “nurses” likely don’t have that problem.

See terms that are changing (and those that aren’t, such as “rifleman”), here.

Link is at http://www.military.com/daily-news/2016/06/28/marines-keep-rifleman-rolling-out-gender-neutral-job-titles.html

Thanks to Herr Bookmonger for providing the link and suggesting a form of the title.

America is Better than Everybody Else

If you haven’t noticed, we’re moving close to the Fourth of July, the American Independence Day.  While the phrase is rampant all the time, this is especially the time to hear, “America is the greatest country in the world.”

Ever stop to think how that sounds to non-Americans?  (Of course if you aren’t American, you have).  What does it literally mean?  It means Americans are better than everyone else.  In other words, every other country in the world is inferior to America.  It’s an insult to the world.

Do an online search for “Greatest country in the world” and (as of five minutes ago) you’ll see articles either saying America is the greatest or America is not the greatest.  They’ll almost all be about America.

America is a superpower.  Russian President Vladimir Putin recently said America is “probably the only superpower.”  But the “land of the free, home of the brave” is consistently not listed as the greatest in personal freedom, in economic freedom, in freedom of the press, in education level, in medical care, or in having law-abiding citizens (instead it has the highest prison population rate in the world).

But America is the greatest country in the world.  So is Russia.  So is China, and the United Kingdom, and Israel, and Egypt, and Iran and Iraq and every other nation in the world to someone.

If you want to praise America on the 4th of July, by all means do so.  But consider saying, “America is the greatest country in the world–to me.”

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Where’s The Blogs?

As of right now, you may notice there’s almost a year gap between blog posts.  Yes, we’re aware of it, and yes, we’re working on it.  We had something of a glitch ($%&!#X!) in doing an update.  It’s in the process of being fixed, so please bear with us while we work to restore the missing posts.

In the meantime, feel free to check out those classic blog posts below

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Update 2016 07 14 #1: We’re getting more back up.  Check below!

Update 2016 07 14 #2: A goof in our supposed fix didn’t allow any new comments on any posts, even the new ones (old ones often disallow comments to avoid spam buildup). We believe we have the problem fixed. Sorry for any inconvenience.

Beauty is in the Eyes of the Beholder

Lizzie Velasquez was born with an extremely rare medical condition that keeps her body from storing fats. In addition to being severely underweight, she is also blind in one eye. She was cyberbullied but stood up for herself. You can too!

Are you beautiful? Believe you are and you are.

People who are hurting want to hurt others. Don’t do it because it won’t make you feel any better.

Lizzie Velasquez, who is blind in one eye and has a condition where her body doesn’t store fat, was cyberbullied. But she stood up to it and has wonderful ideas how you can too. She’s great at TEDxYouth@Austin Be free to be beautiful!

21 Lessons From Lizzie Velasquez, Who Is Actually Amazingly Beautiful

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Ted Cruz Resigns from the Presidential Race–Why?

Ted Cruz leaves the race.

Once again, I am astonished. Ted Cruz has resigned as a candidate for the U.S. presidential nomination. Why?

Yes, Donald Trump, whom I originally predicted had almost no chance, is well ahead. Yes, there’s a chance Trump could get the votes necessary to virtually secure the Republican nomination before the convention. Yes, Cruz lost Indiana, a key state.

But Ted Cruz was expected to lose Indiana. And there is a reasonable chance Trump would not gain enough delegates to secure the nomination with both Cruz and John Kasich still in the race before the Republican National Convention. Without enough delegations, the nomination would have been up for grabs.  It could have gone to Cruz, Kasich, or even someone else.

I can understand why Kasich dropped out of the race.  He was trailing a very distant third, and it was highly unlikely he’d get enough delegates to have a chance.  With Cruz out, Trump virtually has the Republican nomination.  Probably only Cruz could have stopped it.

So why did Ted Cruz resign?

Three Republican Candidates, Three Republican Parties

Republican Party logo upside down.

The Republican Party is in serious trouble. OK, so that’s hardly news. An NPR commenter said that both Donald Trump’s political career and the Republican Party can’t survive this election. Right now, Donald Trump is thriving.

Each of the three candidates seems to represent different Republican Parties. There’s Donald Trump, the business conservative in the tradition of wealthy and powerful white non-Hispanic male businessmen who aren’t afraid to step on people’s toes. He spouts off what he thinks, even calling his political colleagues dummies.

There’s Ted Cruz, the Texas social conservative, who represents “traditional American values.” He also threatens to virtually eliminate the IRS, and is seen as radically conservative by many liberals and moderates.

And then there’s John Kasich. Kasich is the only remaining Republican presidential candidate who represents the traditional Republican Party (“Traditional” here means the party as it was recreated after the resignation of Vice President Spiro T. Agnew and President Richard M. Nixon in the 1970s). He’s conservative but moderate, and remains relatively non-confrontational. Ten years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, even 40 years ago, he is the only candidate who would have had anything close to a reasonable chance of gaining the Republican nomination or of being elected President of the United States. He’s trailing a distant third.

Now Cruz and Kasich are “joining forces” to stop Trump. Ten years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, even 40 years ago, that would have been completely unnecessary. Trump, whom even his family have said is not coming across as presidential, would have eliminated himself.

Time will tell if the Republican Party will do the same thing to itself.

(And by the way,for those who’ve been keeping track, yes I was completely wrong when I said almost a year ago I thought Donald Trump had almost no chance of becoming the Republican nominee for president).

See the Time magazine report.

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Breastfeeding Two Girls is Beautiful

Chelsea Craig, the mother in the images, is shown breastfeeding her two daughters, Addy and Emilynn, in photos taken by professional maternity photographer Mae Burke.

Photos of a mother breastfeeding her two daughters is going viral. The photos taken by Mae Burke show Chelsea Craig breastfeeding her little girls Addy and Emilynn.

Some people are upset because you can see her breasts, including her nipples in some shots, and some people are upset because one of her daughters is no longer a toddler. Well guess what? Breasts don’t have an expiration date. There’s no warning saying when you’re supposed to stop using them. And whoever decided women’s chests are sexy and men’s aren’t was probably a heterosexual man. Let’s get over ageism and sexism and let life be beautiful.

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Facebook Fake Name Purge is Over

miley_cyrus_loveshadeThe Facebook Fake Name Purge is finally over! If you don’t know, Facebook had a real-name campaign. It was removing or blocking accounts of people who didn’t use their real name. That included reporters and freedom activists in dangerous countries, LGBTQ people, and writers, musicians, and actors. It even got Adam Gorightly, the “crackpot historian” and Discordian who is known only by that name (and by his Discordian name).

One woman who was forced to reveal her name had escaped from a man who had beat her and sexually abused her. Two weeks after Facebook forced her to reveal her name, he found her.

I could have gotten kicked off Facebook because I’ve used Miley Spears for a long time when it wasn’t my legal name. Lucky for me I got my name legally changed before the purge. I had to show my driver’s license to Facebook or lose my account.

And what if Destiny Hope Cyrus hadn’t already legally changed her name to Miley Ray Cyrus? Would they have kicked her off too?

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